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| 世界上最出明的一本書有一段非常可愛的名言﹐說到:
"你 們 作 妻 子 的 、 當 順 服 自 己 的 丈 夫 、 如 同 順 服 主 。。。。。。 你 們 作 丈 夫 的 、 要 愛 你 們 的 妻 子 、 正 如 基 督 愛 教 會 、 為 教 會 捨 己 ． "
我實在不明白為什麼要這樣寫。。。 。。
為什么妻子要順服而丈夫卻要愛妻子? 為什么不是丈夫順服而妻子來學會愛丈夫呢?
看看身邊的朋友﹐男的﹐女的。。。 漸漸領悟到明白為什么上帝要這樣的交代。身為獨立自主﹐單身的我﹐身邊自然有無數一樣命運的朋友﹐尤其是在這一個繁忙的城市。我們雖然來自不同的背景﹐卻同樣的擁有良好的教育﹐事業﹐物質的享受。。。 但女人確還常被稱為弱者﹐受保護的﹐真是不了﹐既然已經與男人平起平坐﹐為什麼還要順服﹐哈哈/順夫 呢????
就這樣﹐可見順服對女人來講是一件很難的事﹐但這並不是現代女人的問題哦。這可是女人的本性。女人並不是傳說中的脆弱﹐ 而男人也並非傳說中的堅強。男人要順服在女人的帶領下是很簡單的一件事。從古代的武則天﹐埃及妖後到現在女人﹐都證實了﹐女人並不弱。多少的女人在丈夫不負責﹐不理的情況下﹐能堅強的扛起一個家的重擔。如果一個小孩成長在爸爸順服媽媽的情況下﹐長大後會怎麼樣?男孩會很沒自興﹐女的會很強﹐這樣的家庭有點不健康哦。但是順服並不是盲目聽從﹐服從到一個地步﹐被打或罵都不開聲﹐那是笨! 丈夫和妻子應該互相尊重﹐商討家庭問題﹐提供意件﹐得到答案后﹐妻子順服和給予支持丈夫﹐而不是破口大罵﹐在友人﹐孩子面前表現自己的利害 ﹔p
相反的﹐女人要歇斯底裡的去愛一個人一點都不難﹐因為再強的女人都想要一個疼自己的丈夫﹐但如果要男人學會去愛一個女人是滿困難的一件事﹐撇開性不談﹐男人會在追求你的時候﹐山盟海誓﹐出勁一切手段把你弄到手﹐結婚了之後可是另當別論了。我最近看了一本書﹐說到男人像獵人﹐他們須要挑戰﹐所以為什麼送上門的女生最終的命運常是被拋棄﹐因為太方便了﹐一點難度都沒有。但是若已婚了﹐作丈夫的必須要學著去愛妻﹐所以對他們來說並不簡單。。。 。。。
談戀愛很簡單﹐維護一段婚姻卻不容易。我很喜歡這一則名句﹐我相信在婚姻里﹐除非你自己"退學" ﹐上帝是不會將你踢出校的﹐子不過得不斷的從拿順服丈夫和疼愛妻子的課哦 | | |
| 那晚﹐她在電話的另一端﹐哽咽的告訴我﹐ 一個他和她的故事 。。。 。。。或許﹐我明了。。。 她說: 如 果 是 你﹐為 何 我 感 受 不 到 幸 福 的 存 在 如 果 是 你﹐ 為 何 躺 在 你 的身 邊 感 覺 總 是 那麼的 陌生 如 果 是 你﹐ 為何你對我的愛總是那麼的努 力﹐那麼的 勉 強 跟辛苦 如果是 你愛我﹐為和你總 是說為我做的以經很多﹐你累了﹐ 與 你的距離 是 那麼的接近﹐握的是我的手﹐吻的是我的唇﹐但與你的感覺卻是 那麼的遙遠﹐ 我明白。。。 是她傷透了你﹐而我的大意觸碰了你那還淌著血的傷口 聽著你回憶和她 的過 去﹐從公園單純的下午﹐兩人騎著單車﹐第一次吻她。。 直到你們熱戀﹐你如何義無反顧的付出 卻換來一身的傷 離開了她﹐卻還收藏著種種過去的回憶﹐一堆堆的舊照片﹐錄影 你要我像她﹐你說﹐你喜歡她的漂亮 。。 。 聽著你沉重的說﹐她是你這一生唯一的愛﹐ 沉默一旁的我﹐給的是我僅有的同情﹐ 望著深愛的你﹐努力的不讓眼淚流下 在一起的八個月﹐我們第一個情人節 感謝你為我預備的晚 餐﹐你說做的辛苦﹐我看得到﹐我了 你說﹐累了﹐就連擁抱也不想。。。 我哭了﹐眼淚卻只能往 心里 流﹔卻還得微笑的對你說: 沒關係 如果是她﹐或許結果會不一樣 愛﹐是這樣的嗎? 愛﹐不是因該忘記過去﹐珍惜現在的我嗎 我也有過去﹐我曾經也熱戀過﹐我曾經也受過傷﹐ 但我想珍惜現在的你﹐ 我以為我可以包容﹐ 因為你說過愛我﹐不能沒有我﹐ 這是你承諾過的愛﹐原來也只不過是她剩下的。。。 如果真的愛我﹐再多的付出﹐我想應該是幸福﹐ 是值得的。。。 不應該是痛苦的則任﹐勉強的付出 這不是我要的情人節﹐不是我要的感情﹐不是的 。。。 | | |
| Its all started when she make an e-called aka an emergency call to all the girls regarding Char's horrible break-ups. Jensen the love of her life, left her for another women. I can still remember vividly as it was just months ago where she told us excitingly about this Mr Perfect. To be really frank, it is never easy to meet a Mr Right these days. Someone compatible and fulfilling most of the toughest columms on the list seem always missing in action or sealed with a "Taken" sign. Her new found relationship seems like an open door, with bright light shining shouting "yeah, it's raining man! great man!!! there still hopes for the rest of us!!! Can't deny that, some great and inspiring modern, real life fairy tale are still essential for all the beautiful single princess here, even the word *happily ever after* might not always apply but at least there were some. A beautiful evening dinner organize in a traditional greek restoran especially for our pretty Char. All dress up, sitting in this friendly (of course not romantic) restaurant,not-so-sentimental traditional greek music on the background, extra-friendly waitor and waitress, we all agree this is the best dinner place after break-up. As usual, Char dress up beutifully but there was a silence, none of us know where to start. Suddenly, someone breaks the decade long silent : I know all of you care for me, but i am alright, It was winter, a lovely season to fall in love, the relationship we shared, I learned a lot from him as well. It was cold and we definitely need each other. However, as you girls know, is summer now, who needs anyone at 40 degrees rite. Don't worry about me, I am fine." Everyone of us were shocked in a minutes but burst into laughter. It was a warmth and great dinner, opening out our heart to each other, sharing our lives together.... ... nothing is better than having true friendship, going through ups and downs together. Lying on the bed that night, I can't help but think "how sad if our duration of relationship are equal to the change season, where is happily every after?... ..." | | |
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just wander how every girl deal with the ex-girlfriend/s of your
current boyfriend/ husband? I knew most of us are someone else’s
ex-girlfriend, but when it comes to our current-boyfriend ex we might
felt differently towards these women.
I am not here to pretend cool, angelic or … … But I have never been
in a relationship where my partner is still keeping a close contact
with the ex, for all my relationship when it comes to an end, it means
*end*, it was the same for all the guys I went out with until this
current one. So let me defined my *ended relationship*, I will not make
mid night phone call telling him how much I miss him, before I am sure
that I can *only be friend* with him, I will not contact him … …. OK,
maybe I am a little old-fashioned, or maybe I am petty but honestly I
hated the ex who call at weird hours to just talk cause they are
lonely, or just call to see how are you doing? … ..
Still remember vividly in my mind that was his very first birthday
we celebrated together. I was really excited for all the surprises I
had plan weeks ago for this very special occasion. When the midnight
clock, lights was off and replace with dim-romantic candle lights, soft
and beautiful music was playing on the background, I gave him the
birthday cake, everything was so perfect until someone knocked on the
door, (at this hour??) It was a friend of his, giving him a beautifully
wrapped box and a card, telling him its from his ex-girlfriend (she
wanted him to give it to him at midnight of his birthday).
I thought since I am the * CURRENT - girlfriend*, that doesn’t
matter, I should be more loving and kind to accept the gift (anyway is
just a gift, I am still the one who is kiss-ING and hold-ING him).
Well, lets go back to the gift, apparently it was a shirt he really
likes when they went shopping together last year (before they broke-up)
it was compliment with the sweetest note on the card and he called her
to thank her for her thoughtfulness. However, to be real honest, I was
a little unhappy and maybe er mm offended … … but what can I do, after
all is his birthday, I am not going to ruin it because of that? yea
babe, continue to smile and be the most understanding girlfriend in the
world.
Later on that day, we had a little birthday dinner for him, it was a
beautiful night of celebration and fellowship with all our close
friend, except the fact that he was wearing the new shirt from her, I
try my best not to express any unpleasant feelings of mine, but I think
everyone can smell tension in the air through the *awkward smile*
exchange between both of us. .. .. .. when we got home, I just lost
it. He apologize cause he thinks it is not a big deal, I should have
know that he loves me and not her… …
Well, am I being too much a bimboo or do you really think
we should accept our partner’s ex’es and befriended her? what is the
acceptable ‘friendship’ between them?
What are the things that you hated the most when it comes to
your partner’s ex’s? and just wander what is the best alternative to
stop the ex issues in your current relationship | | |
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Getting into a relationship without knowing each other well enough is an excitement. It just like; waking up to a beautiful morning, as usual, getting the paper and milk on the door step, but suddenly, something unusual caught your attention - beautiful package, the anticipation of knowing what is inside... nevertheless when you slowly open up the package, that sense of excitment vanish on spot, realising that everything is not as nice as what you think, will you keep it or just throw it away; its the same when it comes to relationship, will you hang on to it or just leave it as it is?
Being single for 3 years never makes me wiser, however it gave me an opportunity being there for friends who is getting in and out of relationship ..... After all these years ... Women, in general are quite fragile and always giving part of their heart away too easily, especially when it comes to relationship. We are more emotional, it doesn't matter if you are strong or weak, earning millions or couple of dollars..... we are all the same....
So my friend met this guy, who has lots of qualities a girl look for in terms of 'look' and 'charm' (or flirtatious i mean), but in my definition - a head to toe playboy. However, she knew him through a very positive and healthy condition, and it was through a friend who he is at that time having a little 'sparks/feelings' with, not long later, they started to pay a little attention to each other. She was curious of him, what makes him so confidence when it comes to girls, just his looks or there's more in him? curiosity starts creeping in ... ..
The process of meeting till going out 'in-officially' helped her to slowly open up this interesting package. However the more she knew bout him, the more she wants to run away, there are things that she can't comprehend ... ... She knows it sounded a little unfair for him, everyone had his/her's past relationships, part of memories that can't be wiped away, and maybe everyone deserve chance ... ...
but that leads me to some thoughts...
Finding security in a 'flamboyant' guy, how secure can it be? If all girls get the same treatment from him, what is the definition of special girl-friend? How much will that 'given chance' cost her? | | |
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